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Erik Leppen

Member Since 25 Jan 2007
Offline Last Active Mar 02 2016 11:04 AM

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In Topic: How much do you charge for freelance programming?

18 February 2016 - 11:45 AM

Also, what hours to count?

Do you count going for a walk to allow the unconscious to come up with ideas? To me, that is a necessary part of the creative work that programming is.

In Topic: GMC Death Pool

16 February 2016 - 09:47 AM

Don't worry. It will happen "soon".

In Topic: Is it true that Game Designers tend to be eccentric?

13 February 2016 - 09:11 AM

Nowadays, half the kids I meet have some emotional or psychological "disorder"

To me, "disorder" is merely a word to describe the natural variation that comes with our species, and a society that is tailored to a specific kind of person, resulting in the other varieties running into problems they didn't ask for.

In Topic: How do you feel less bored?

26 January 2016 - 04:05 PM

Make new games.

After all, you're on a game dev place. ;)

But jokes aside, I experience that creating things never gets old, as long as you have the creative energy. Whatever it is you enjoy, make it. It helps if you do different things. I do LEGO building, music making, drawing, and even then I quite frequently resort to playing some games if I'm out of creative energy :)

In Topic: Relationship Discussions

26 January 2016 - 11:22 AM

I have very little to add to the discussion that hasn't already been said, but I do want to say that the discussion itself is wonderful, so thanks for that :)

That said, though, one necessary ingredient for any relationship is self-confidence. You cannot expect another person to love you if you don't love yourself. In real life I have long been a shy guy (this has changed a lot over the last three years) that didn't go out a lot, and I wasn't very self-confident. The internet however, is a way to conceal this, and show the world those parts that I am confident about, without having to show your weaknesses.

However, to be loved as a person (as a whole) you have to show your weaknesses, to allow the other person to love your entirety and not just part of you. If you only have online contact, you're always looking at a filtered view of the other person. You're never experiencing the whole person. You can fill in many things with your own ideas about the other, but those are in fact just fantasies. Of course, IRL there's also a filter, but I think it always shows more. Humans are evolved to interact IRL, so that's where we get the most information about people. Not to say online relationships aren't real, but they are different. What you're loving is a subset of a person.

I have the idea that online relationships are about rationalizing love. Personally, I think that in a real-life relationship, the physical aspect is an essential part. It might not be rational, but love is never rational. It's a very touchy-feely subjective thing.

That said, though, what do I know? :)